People often say you’ll find love when you stop looking for it, but here’s a better way to think about it.
- Some people seem to find love easily, while others struggle
- The common advice of “stop looking” can feel discouraging
- There’s a mindset shift that makes manifesting love much easier
Closing Question: Have you ever felt stuck and frustrated trying to find that special someone? If so, read on for a fresh perspective that could change everything.
The Problem with “Stop Looking”
When you really want a relationship, it’s tough to hear people say, “You’ll find love when you stop looking for it.” That advice can make you feel:
- Angry – Like you’re being told not to want your heart’s desire
- Doubtful – Is it really possible to just “stop looking”?
- Exhausted – You find yourself looking everywhere for potential partners.
It doesn’t make sense that only people NOT looking for love would find it. Many people manifest loving relationships while actively looking. The “stop looking” advice misses something important.
You’ll Find Love When You’re Not “Lacking”
The real mindset shift is to stop feeling like you’re “lacking” love or a relationship. When you’re constantly looking from a place of loneliness or desperation, you give off a “lacking” vibe. The universe then brings you people and situations in harmony with that mindset of lack.
However, people who “stop looking” tend to move into more of a “having” mentality. They shift to feeling content being single, focusing on themselves, and not needing a relationship right now. This abundant mindset opens the door for greater opportunities.
Success Story: From Lacking to Abundance
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Jennifer was a single mom who believed “guys don’t want the baggage” of her two kids. This created a lacking mentality that led to a cycle of disappointment and depression about her love life.
After joining a coaching program, Jennifer worked on her mindset. She started coming from a place of already “having” what she wanted rather than focusing on what was lacking.
First, she met an intriguing guy – not perfect, but there were real sparks. Though he ended up reconnecting with an ex, Jennifer took it in stride. Her new, abundant confidence amazed the guy, making him question his choice.
That same night, Jennifer proactively reached out to an incredibly attractive and likable man online named David. They hit it off instantly. Their relationship blossomed, and they eventually married – all because of Jennifer’s shift from a lacking to an abundant mindset.
Tips for Developing an Abundant Mindset
- Go on more dates, even if they don’t seem “perfect.” This increases your social momentum and abundance mentality.
- Make a list of all the things you love about yourself and your life right now. Read it daily to reinforce gratitude and contentment.
- Visualize your ideal partner and imagine how it will feel to share a life together. But focus on enjoying the journey first, before your manifestation.
By implementing abundance practices like these daily, you train your mind to operate from a mindset of having self-love rather than lack. Love then naturally flows into your experience.
Conclusion
The revised perspective is: You’ll find an amazing relationship not when you stop looking entirely, but when you stop subconsciously feeling like you’re lacking love or not enough. Develop an abundant, self-assured mindset first, and manifesting the love you want becomes exponentially easier.
What’s one small step you can take today to begin shifting out of a lacking mindset into one of abundance and self-love? Trying this new approach just might lead you to that soulmate connection you’ve been seeking.
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