Relationships require effort to make your significant other feel truly special. This article covers three powerful ways to accomplish that goal.
- Be selective when choosing a partner
- Give small goals and celebrate achieving them
- Join your partner’s world by learning about their interests
Does making your boyfriend or girlfriend feel like “the one” seem challenging? Read on for simple tips.
Be Selective Early On
One of the guys’ most significant fears is feeling like they are just the next choice, not someone extraordinary. To avoid this:
- Use language showing you have high standards from the start
- Say things like, “It takes a really special guy to win my heart”
- Mention taking relationships slowly to ensure it’s the right fit
This shows you’re being selective instead of just latching onto the first decent option. It makes your eventual selection of him feel much more meaningful.
Moving Too Quickly Backfires
Sleeping together on the first date, while not inherently wrong, prevents a man from feeling unique or carefully selected. He may think:
“She probably does this with everyone. How well could she really know me after just a few hours?”
Moving slower gives you time to show you’re being highly selective. This makes it feel like a bigger deal when you do choose him.
Give Little Goals to Achieve
Every man’s biggest fear is feeling inadequate or unable to provide what he wants. But setting small goals and celebrating the achievement of them counteracts those fears.
Request Favors You’d Enjoy
Say things like:
“I’d really love it if you planned a hike for us this weekend” “It would mean a lot if you spent time with my family at our barbecue”
When he follows through, outwardly rejoice! Give big hugs and celebratory praise like:
“Babe, this hike was a brilliant idea. You’re a rockstar!”
This makes him feel appreciated and special. He’ll eagerly look for more ways to make you happy.
Join His Interests & Passions
Men have hobbies, interests, and favorite sports/media that are significant parts of their lives. Make an effort to:
- Learn about topics he’s passionate about, even if they don’t initially interest you
- Inquire and seek to comprehend the reasons for his passion for these things.
- Join him in those worlds by watching games, discussing his hobbies, etc.
A genuine interest in his world makes a man feel genuinely understood and memorable. It shows you embracing the entire person, not just dating the generic “boyfriend” role.
Putting It Into Practice
While making a partner feel truly special requires ongoing effort, starting with these three tips can go a long way:
- Be selective so he feels chosen, not just the next option
- Give little goals to achieve and lavishly praise when he succeeds
- Join his world by immersing yourself in the topics/hobbies he loves
What tricks have you found to make your boyfriend or girlfriend feel special and appreciated? Keeping the spark alive takes work but makes relationships deeply fulfilling.
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