What if your partner loses interest, but you still want the relationship? Here’s how one woman handled it.
- She stayed calm instead of getting upset
- She believed she’d find true love no matter what
- She gave her partner space to figure things out
Do you worry your boyfriend or girlfriend might lose interest? That can feel scary. This article explains how one woman kept her cool when her partner started pulling away.
Her Husband Had Commitment Issues at First
Mat Boggs is a relationship coach. But even he got cold feet when it was time to take his relationship to the next level with his then-girlfriend Irene.
Mat had spent years interviewing happily married couples to learn their secrets. He travelled over 12,000 miles in an RV, working on a book called ‘Project Everlasting.’ So it’s ironic that Mat got nervous about proposing to Irene after dating for two years.
Mat explains that transitions like getting married can bring up a lot of fears about the unknown, even when it’s something you want deep down.
“That old life is gonna try to raise the fear, the doubt, and the worry to try to drag you back,” Mat says.
Irene Noticed Mat Pulling Away
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Mat admits he started acting distant and avoiding talking about their future together. Irene could sense Mat was getting wobbly about committing.
“I stopped using phrases like us and ‘we. I stopped making plans, and she began to notice this,” Mat recalls.
So what did Irene do? Instead of nagging Mat or getting upset, she stayed centred and gave him space. Here are the brilliant steps she took:
Step 1: Claim Your Peace
Irene accepted there were things outside of her control, like Mat’s fears and commitment level. Rather than try to force him, she surrendered and trusted the situation would work out as it was meant to.
“The more control we try to have over what somebody else decides or chooses, the more anxiety we will feel,” Mat explains Irene’s mindset.
Step 2: Have An Empowered Mindset
Irene didn’t make her happiness dependent on Mat choosing her. She had an empowered belief that she would find an amazing love either way.
“She was like, ‘If Mat’s the one, great. But if not, there will be someone else amazing because I’m a woman creating an incredible love life,'” Mat says.
This certainty within herself, rather than neediness, gave Irene her calm confidence.
Step 3: Claim the Relationship You Want
After giving Mat a few days of space, Irene had an honest conversation about her desire for commitment. She didn’t get upset but stated the truth.
She told Mat: “I want to be with you…but if not, I’ll create an amazing relationship and family with somebody.” Then she gave him 3 days to decide what he wanted.
This wake-up call, plus Irene’s unwavering self-respect and patience, helped Mat overcome his fears. Three days later, they decided to move forward as a couple.
Key Takeaways
In summary, if your partner starts pulling away, you can:
- Stay calm and claim your inner peace
- Have an empowered, certain mindset that you’ll find love no matter what
- Communicate your desires directly but without pushing
- Give them space to work through their fears
Irene showed that keeping cool can help you rekindle the spark, or you can move on without burning bridges. What matters most is believing in yourself and your worth.
If you found these tips helpful, what other dating situations would you like advice on? Let me know in the comments!
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